People pleasing…does it ever stop? I’ve been a Christian for over forty years and the internal pressure to say and do things to gain others' approval still persists. While being affirmed by others or earning another’s respect is a blessing, people-pleasing is not.
We only have one real Judge and it’s not anyone in on this earth. Yet, I’ve noticed my tendency to fill my life with “jurors” who I easily empower to determine my sense of worth. Almost unknowingly, I can fill up an internal “jury box” with people I’ve appointed to appease or gain approval from. Having such “jurors” supplants God as Lord of my life, as others' looks, words or even their silence preside over my priorities and prevent me from living freely in Christ.
Jesus kept his “jury box” empty. Even his critics had this to say about Jesus: “Teacher, we know that you are a man of integrity. You aren’t swayed by others, because you pay no attention to who they are, but you teach the way of God in accordance with the truth.” (Mark 12:14).
So, who’s sitting in your jury box? Are there people whose voices have replaced God’s opinion about who you are and how you are to live? It could be a boss or a client… It could even be a spouse or a family member.
Emptying my “jury box” is something I have to do every day. Join me and let’s do it together today!